Comments for A Good Husband http://agoodhusband.net Marriage Advice From A Man Sun, 20 May 2012 10:41:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Comment on My Husband Plays Xbox too Much: The Xbox Conundrum: Part II by mrbrawnwhite http://agoodhusband.net/2008/01/my-husband-plays-xbox-too-much-the-xbox-conundrum-part-ii/#comment-2020 mrbrawnwhite Sun, 20 May 2012 10:41:47 +0000 http://agoodhusband.net/?p=390#comment-2020 I am writing this because I want to testify how great you are. Everyone needs to know! I am a very satisfied and happy customer. I can t tell how long it s been since I ve bought spells online, but none of them had the same results than yours. Stephani definitely moved in with me 1 months ago. It was just a few weeks after you cast your spell. I know I should have messaged you before, but I was a bit scared that she could find out about the spell you did so I removed all your emails. Anyway, I can tell all your future customers who are reading this that they are doing the right choice to go with you for a spell contact the MESSIAH the freemercytemple@yahoo.com. It was always great communicate with you and all the services you offer are just excellent. Thank you for everything you did for me! I am writing this because I want to testify how great you are. Everyone needs to know! I am a very satisfied and happy customer. I can t tell how long it s been since I ve bought spells online, but none of them had the same results than yours. Stephani definitely moved in with me 1 months ago. It was just a few weeks after you cast your spell. I know I should have messaged you before, but I was a bit scared that she could find out about the spell you did so I removed all your emails. Anyway, I can tell all your future customers who are reading this that they are doing the right choice to go with you for a spell contact the MESSIAH the freemercytemple@yahoo.com. It was always great communicate with you and all the services you offer are just excellent. Thank you for everything you did for me!

]]> Comment on iPad Should Not Be Your iWife by HughJigo http://agoodhusband.net/2011/10/ipad-iwife/#comment-2018 HughJigo Thu, 26 Apr 2012 03:12:55 +0000 http://agoodhusband.net/?p=1254#comment-2018 Jesus Christ said we wouldn't be married in the eternities.  "At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven." You have much less time to spend with your wife than you think. Jesus Christ said we wouldn’t be married in the eternities.  ”At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven.” You have much less time to spend with your wife than you think.

]]> Comment on Could You Forgive Your Spouse for Cheating? by rebeca111 http://agoodhusband.net/2008/12/could-you-forgive-your-spouse-for-cheating/#comment-2017 rebeca111 Tue, 24 Apr 2012 20:40:44 +0000 http://agoodhusband.net/?p=1040#comment-2017 Anon: Last month I found out that my husband went to this massage girl and paid for sex. It happened last year right after 3 days of our 12th anniversary. I am devastated, constantly thinking about what happened. I asked him to tell me everything that happened in that room in details, he told me in the end. It was just too torturing, now i can't stop having those images. I found out the website for the massage parlor and even saw that girl's pictures. I just can't describe how I am feeling right now. My heart is broken. We have a 9 years old boy, we decided to give our marriage another chance. But will I ever be able to trust him again, forget what happen?  Anon: Last month I found out that my husband went to this massage girl and paid for sex. It happened last year right after 3 days of our 12th anniversary. I am devastated, constantly thinking about what happened. I asked him to tell me everything that happened in that room in details, he told me in the end. It was just too torturing, now i can’t stop having those images. I found out the website for the massage parlor and even saw that girl’s pictures. I just can’t describe how I am feeling right now. My heart is broken. We have a 9 years old boy, we decided to give our marriage another chance. But will I ever be able to trust him again, forget what happen? 

]]> Comment on Caring for A Chronically Ill Spouse by wsimmons65 http://agoodhusband.net/2008/01/caring-for-a-chronically-ill-spouse/#comment-2016 wsimmons65 Wed, 18 Apr 2012 01:58:44 +0000 http://agoodhusband.net/?p=374#comment-2016 Thomas, I understand completely. I am in tears as I write this. I did not know what my wife's condition was when I met her and it was only 2-3 years into our marriage that I fully realized that it was not going to go away. However, by that time my wife had reservoir of insults and misunderstandings from me  that she continues to reference to this day that I made in my ignorance. Instead of ever realizing just how difficult this is for me she makes me feel guilty for making it worse by any stress that I may unintentionally cause. She has Chron's Colitis and as such she has not had a libido or felt well in years -long before meeting me.  I miss sex, drinking wine with her, civil conversation, hugs, romance, and someone in my bed at night. Because she goes to the bathroom 7-10 times a night we haven't slept together in years. I really want to leave but we have 2 beautiful kids that I don't want to abandon. I have never felt so alone in my life. I feel that I my life is over and that she could care less because her illness takes precedence. Thomas,
I understand completely. I am in tears as I write this. I did not know what my wife’s condition was when I met her and it was only 2-3 years into our marriage that I fully realized that it was not going to go away. However, by that time my wife had reservoir of insults and misunderstandings from me  that she continues to reference to this day that I made in my ignorance. Instead of ever realizing just how difficult this is for me she makes me feel guilty for making it worse by any stress that I may unintentionally cause. She has Chron’s Colitis and as such she has not had a libido or felt well in years -long before meeting me.
 I miss sex, drinking wine with her, civil conversation, hugs, romance, and someone in my bed at night. Because she goes to the bathroom 7-10 times a night we haven’t slept together in years. I really want to leave but we have 2 beautiful kids that I don’t want to abandon. I have never felt so alone in my life. I feel that I my life is over and that she could care less because her illness takes precedence.

]]> Comment on A Good Husband’s Habits by Awesome123 http://agoodhusband.net/2011/10/a-good-husbands-habits/#comment-2014 Awesome123 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 00:02:00 +0000 http://agoodhusband.net/?p=1242#comment-2014 http://thegoodotherwoman.blogspot.com/   if you would like to read a live happening now story between a married man and his mistress who is living a couple of months break up as she will be moving to a different country.    might be interesting... http://thegoodotherwoman.blogspot.com/
 
if you would like to read a live happening now story between a married man and his mistress who is living a couple of months break up as she will be moving to a different country. 
 
might be interesting…

]]> Comment on Caring for A Chronically Ill Spouse by sethharry http://agoodhusband.net/2008/01/caring-for-a-chronically-ill-spouse/#comment-2013 sethharry Sun, 11 Mar 2012 16:24:45 +0000 http://agoodhusband.net/?p=374#comment-2013 I like this article very much. I am married to a woman who has a chronic auto-immune disease. A lot has changed since we met. Her physical condition has caused her to lose lots of weight, she has difficulty breathing and at times is very, very weak and in a lot of pain. I have become not only the bread winner but the caregiver and like others who've commented this can be very challenging. The hardest part for me is the helplessness I feel and the frustration of watching the person I love most suffering. Hers is a relentless illness and I try to keep my mind out of the future. A cure could be found, she might reverse herself, some miracle could happen or she could steadily decline and suffer greatly, I can't predict that part. I obviously hope for the best but it helps me to stay in the day. To look at the parts of her that are well. Her smile. Her sense of humor. Her curiosity. Her creativity. It also helps me to communicate with her when I am overwhelmed. I've learned that I can't manage everything, that I can't make her better and I had no part in causing her illness. It is hers. I am well and I have to enjoy my life. I liked what you wrote about taking time out for yourself. I have learned that I have to do that as well. I am not a martyr. I choose to stay with her because I love her and I want to be there but it is really hard some days. Some days I think about leaving. I leave that option open for myself. I don't want to be trapped. I want  to continue to stay out of my free will and give because it feels good. I focus as best I can on what feels good. This is a very difficult practice when you're around someone who's in so much pain I am a bit of a clown and making her laugh feels good. Playing games, watching movies and TV. Going on dates when she's up to. Trying to keep it romantic. Not always easy but necessary. It has also deepened me as a person. It shown me that I have more love inside of me than I ever imagined. We have deepened our spiritual practices and that's also helped a lot.  We have gone to therapy together to work out some of this and to better empathize with each other. That was helpful and if things get bad I would certain;y go back. Maybe the single most helpful thing for me is also the hardest one to practice, to not have your entire relationship focused on the illness. To keep your attention on what feels good as much as possible. I like this article very much. I am married to a woman who has a chronic auto-immune disease. A lot has changed since we met. Her physical condition has caused her to lose lots of weight, she has difficulty breathing and at times is very, very weak and in a lot of pain. I have become not only the bread winner but the caregiver and like others who’ve commented this can be very challenging. The hardest part for me is the helplessness I feel and the frustration of watching the person I love most suffering. Hers is a relentless illness and I try to keep my mind out of the future. A cure could be found, she might reverse herself, some miracle could happen or she could steadily decline and suffer greatly, I can’t predict that part. I obviously hope for the best but it helps me to stay in the day. To look at the parts of her that are well. Her smile. Her sense of humor. Her curiosity. Her creativity. It also helps me to communicate with her when I am overwhelmed. I’ve learned that I can’t manage everything, that I can’t make her better and I had no part in causing her illness. It is hers. I am well and I have to enjoy my life. I liked what you wrote about taking time out for yourself. I have learned that I have to do that as well. I am not a martyr. I choose to stay with her because I love her and I want to be there but it is really hard some days. Some days I think about leaving. I leave that option open for myself. I don’t want to be trapped. I want  to continue to stay out of my free will and give because it feels good. I focus as best I can on what feels good. This is a very difficult practice when you’re around someone who’s in so much pain I am a bit of a clown and making her laugh feels good. Playing games, watching movies and TV. Going on dates when she’s up to. Trying to keep it romantic. Not always easy but necessary. It has also deepened me as a person. It shown me that I have more love inside of me than I ever imagined. We have deepened our spiritual practices and that’s also helped a lot. 
We have gone to therapy together to work out some of this and to better empathize with each other. That was helpful and if things get bad I would certain;y go back. Maybe the single most helpful thing for me is also the hardest one to practice, to not have your entire relationship focused on the illness. To keep your attention on what feels good as much as possible.

]]> Comment on Could You Forgive Your Spouse for Cheating? by neka hunt1 http://agoodhusband.net/2008/12/could-you-forgive-your-spouse-for-cheating/#comment-2012 neka hunt1 Sat, 10 Mar 2012 18:49:24 +0000 http://agoodhusband.net/?p=1040#comment-2012 my husband has always been doing shit and we been married nine years and this last time . hurt the most he was cheating with this big elephant for about two years and he lied and said he never did it and that the girl was lying .but i caught hom on twitter and he had his family see that shit and he was talking about me being stupid and he was telling her he loved her .and my heart is hurt cause i fight all the time.i jumped on his mama and sister and he give them shit to say about me.the girl email me woith the messy shit. my husband has always been doing shit and we been married nine years and this last time . hurt the most he was cheating with this big elephant for about two years and he lied and said he never did it and that the girl was lying .but i caught hom on twitter and he had his family see that shit and he was talking about me being stupid and he was telling her he loved her .and my heart is hurt cause i fight all the time.i jumped on his mama and sister and he give them shit to say about me.the girl email me woith the messy shit.

]]> Comment on My Husband Plays Xbox too Much: The Xbox Conundrum: Part II by poopycaca http://agoodhusband.net/2008/01/my-husband-plays-xbox-too-much-the-xbox-conundrum-part-ii/#comment-2011 poopycaca Mon, 05 Mar 2012 08:31:05 +0000 http://agoodhusband.net/?p=390#comment-2011 There is a line that is crossed when a husband plays more than 1-2 hours of videos games per day.  I understand the need for stress relief, no problem.  However,  a 42 year old man, playing video games before he goes to work when he has time, and at night when he gets home, sometimes until 4am, and in addition to this is writing a book, well the wife gets close to ZERO hours per day of time with her husband who she married to BE WITH.    Sure  quick hello or good bye or goodnight....and we do have an obligated day together which ends up we may spend about 3 hours together on that day, and the other hours he is gaming or writing.  We have separate rooms, haven't shared a bedroom since we met, due to his gaming, and weird hours....now it is even hard to sleep together even if we want to because we are so used to sleeping alone.  He is easily irritated, and gets really pissed sometimes if I go in his room when he is playing games.  He curses when playing Halo...and yes right now I can hear him clicking away at his game controller and talking outloud.  More and more we have become isolated from each other.  I have had to cope by doing my own thing....watching TV, reading, internet, movies....I like a lot of what I do, but this is getting ridiculous.  I feel like it is all up to him whether or not we hang out....If he is addicted to another game, or had to keep writing his book...I feel very very ALONE.  I think this age of electronics is really separating true relationships.....whether it is video games, iphones, texting, internet.....it is all very addicting and is pulling us apart in a lot of ways.  I think we are losing our real life social skills, and relationship skills......IT is very scary and sad...I don't know how much more of this I can  take.....There is something so wrong with this.  I cannot even fathom having kids with my husband because they would probably not get any time with him, and he would be grumpy and angry with them like he is with me.  It would be cruel to have children in this environment. There is a line that is crossed when a husband plays more than 1-2 hours of videos games per day.  I understand the need for stress relief, no problem.  However,  a 42 year old man, playing video games before he goes to work when he has time, and at night when he gets home, sometimes until 4am, and in addition to this is writing a book, well the wife gets close to ZERO hours per day of time with her husband who she married to BE WITH.    Sure  quick hello or good bye or goodnight….and we do have an obligated day together which ends up we may spend about 3 hours together on that day, and the other hours he is gaming or writing.  We have separate rooms, haven’t shared a bedroom since we met, due to his gaming, and weird hours….now it is even hard to sleep together even if we want to because we are so used to sleeping alone.  He is easily irritated, and gets really pissed sometimes if I go in his room when he is playing games.  He curses when playing Halo…and yes right now I can hear him clicking away at his game controller and talking outloud.  More and more we have become isolated from each other.  I have had to cope by doing my own thing….watching TV, reading, internet, movies….I like a lot of what I do, but this is getting ridiculous.  I feel like it is all up to him whether or not we hang out….If he is addicted to another game, or had to keep writing his book…I feel very very ALONE.  I think this age of electronics is really separating true relationships…..whether it is video games, iphones, texting, internet…..it is all very addicting and is pulling us apart in a lot of ways.  I think we are losing our real life social skills, and relationship skills……IT is very scary and sad…I don’t know how much more of this I can  take…..There is something so wrong with this.  I cannot even fathom having kids with my husband because they would probably not get any time with him, and he would be grumpy and angry with them like he is with me.  It would be cruel to have children in this environment.

]]> Comment on Could You Forgive Your Spouse for Cheating? by delicatebonds http://agoodhusband.net/2008/12/could-you-forgive-your-spouse-for-cheating/#comment-2008 delicatebonds Wed, 22 Feb 2012 08:24:04 +0000 http://agoodhusband.net/?p=1040#comment-2008 Its not easy to forgive, when you've been cheated by someone whom you loved with your life. That kills! Irene, you have faced irreversible damage to your feelings. Its not going to heal that easy. It will take time. For now, all i can suggest you is to let those memories go. That is the best you can do. Hardly anything else seems feasible. If he is really a changed man now, then you must accept him back, if not for anything else, then for you kids. http://www.delicatebonds.com/is-your-partner-cheating-on-you/ Its not easy to forgive, when you’ve been cheated by someone whom you loved with your life. That kills!

Irene, you have faced irreversible damage to your feelings. Its not going to heal that easy. It will take time. For now, all i can suggest you is to let those memories go. That is the best you can do. Hardly anything else seems feasible. If he is really a changed man now, then you must accept him back, if not for anything else, then for you kids.

http://www.delicatebonds.com/is-your-partner-cheating-on-you/

]]> Comment on Could You Forgive Your Spouse for Cheating? by delicatebonds http://agoodhusband.net/2008/12/could-you-forgive-your-spouse-for-cheating/#comment-2007 delicatebonds Wed, 22 Feb 2012 08:18:16 +0000 http://agoodhusband.net/?p=1040#comment-2007 It isn't really easy to forgive, especially if you know you've cheated. When someone you love with your life betrays you, it kills! http://www.delicatebonds.com/is-your-partner-cheating-on-you/ It isn’t really easy to forgive, especially if you know you’ve cheated. When someone you love with your life betrays you, it kills!

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