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The Month of August was a big month for A Good Husband. I started meeting a lot of the Mommy Bloggers out there and it’s been a fun ride. Most of these mommy bloggers also happen to be married, so it was interesting discussing marriage with them.

Take a look at these popular posts from the month of August, and enjoy!

What Women Think of Daddy Blogging - A guest post series on what women bloggers think of sites like A Good Husband and others.
When is it Time to Give Up On Marriage? - A reader question with a lot of great feedback from other readers. Have you put much thought into this?
How I Would Do My Wedding Differently - I would re-do my wedding. In fact, I probably will some day. Read how.
Announcing Husband & Dads! - If you haven’t visited HusbandsandDads.com yet, do it!
Father-Son Relationships and Marriage - A personal story of how I overcame my relationship with the male role models in my life and became a better husband.

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  • Friday Link Love

    It’s been an amazing experience launching HusbandsandDads. I’ve met so many great new bloggers, and I have to give some of them a shout out, as well as let you all know about the resources that are out there.


    StrongFathers.com - dedicated to helping fathers be more involved in their children’s lives, J. Michael Hall has created a resource and a movement that spans across religious, education, and civic arenas.

    The Man Page - quote from Derek’s article that hit the front page of Digg yesterday, “If you get home before your wife, rather than plop down in front of the TV, clean up the house and vacuum the carpets. When she walks in and sees you vacuuming, she may have a hard time not jumping on you right then and there.” The article is titled My Boobs Are Not Squeeze Toys: 8 Tips for More Action in the Bedroom. Brilliant. Read it.

    The Father Life - news on the latest trends on the internet that have to do with being a father.

    Check ‘em out.

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  • I’m a Hot Blogger Nominee!

    Okay, I don’t ask for favors from all of you much at all, so I’m calling in all my chips right now. I know it’s totally shallow and self promoting, but I WANT TO BE IN THE HOT BLOGGER CALENDAR!!! If I have to, I’ll totally humiliate myself just to get there.

    Do me a favor, and nominate me a few extra times, just to be sure:

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    Voting begins August 25th. Be sure to vote by clicking here (if I need to buy your vote, name your price):

    EDIT: Thanks to PersistentIllusion, I’m now getting ready to do some sort of ridiculous publicity video. Let me know if you have any ideas or you want to contribute.

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  • Announcing HusbandsandDads.com

    I’m taking a break from Monday Morning Amour today to let you all know that the new project that I’ve been hinting at for the past month or so is finally up and running.

    In collaboration with Jeremy from DiscoveringDad.net, I’d like to announce the launch of the new site, HusbandsandDads.com. Our tagline is “Where It’s Cool To Be A Family Man.”

    Husbands and Dads was conceived during a conversation between Jeremy and I when we realized the needs a place that can be a go-to resource for men who want to be a better husband and father.

    You’ll find HusbandsandDads.com to be a little bit different than the standard “Daddy Blog.” The focus of HusbandsandDads is on providing well researched, thorough articles with little editorializing. You’ll find articles on things like paternity leave, what wives want in a vacation, and getting your kids a head start on college savings.

    The main difference between A Good Husband and Husbands and Dads? I get to write about more stuff than just being a husband, and do it in a more focused way. This site, AGoodHusband, will continue to function as a community and a “my opinion on marriage” type of site.

    On HusbandsandDads, you will also find some of those things that have made AGoodHusband and DiscoveringDad so popular, like a thoroughly accessible and close knit community that you can join and help grow.

    For the first time, there’s a stunningly dynamic forum for men to discuss nearly any issue. There you’ll find not only Jeremy and myself, but some of the top Daddy bloggers and experts on men’s issues. There’s also a fully integrated comment and rating system for the articles so that you can tell us which articles are most useful.

    In addition to the forums and comment systems, there’s a rather unique chat feature built into the site at the bottom of each article that allows you have instant conversations with anyone else who is using the site. It’s still experimental, so check it out and let us know what you think.

    So, now that I’ve let you all know about the site, please pop over and look around, subscribe to the feed, share the site with your friends and family, and let me know what you think!

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  • My Sixth Anniversary Trip

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    Day One: August 8, 2008 (our Anniversary)  
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    Cory started the day by giving Lissie a meaningful bouquet.  Red Roses for Romantic Love.  Orchids (white) for Love and Beauty.  Carnations (red) for Fascination.  (Isn’t he the best?)  Lissie loved them so much they came with us on the trip.  The following two arrangements are what Lissie did when the flowers started dying.  The dahlias are from a plant in our backyard, they mean Elegance.
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      The main attraction is the Spruce Goose, the giant plane that Howard Hughes built (you may be familiar with the plane from the movie The Aviator starring Leonardo DiCaprio as Howard Hughes and Cate Blanchett as Katherine Hepburn.)  We didn’t go in but we walked the perimeter of the huge glass building housing the Spruce Goose.  It takes so much room to accomodate that another 30+ planes fit in the air space surrounding the wings, tail, and head.   The tanks were out back.
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      However we did touch the planes.  Cool.
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    You all probably know that we love food, and this trip was no exception in our hunt to consume all that is yummy.  We ate lunch at Otis Cafe — a teeny-tiny diner with large portions and famous burgers (written up by USA Today & The New York Times).  Lissie had the buffalo burger and decided that she officially likes buffalo meat (we had some bison tacos last year that were delicious).  For dinner we went to the Historic Bay Front in Newport and ate at Local Ocean.  Lissie tried raw oysters and loved them! (I know crazy, huh?) Although the sauce it came with was gross.
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    Day Two: August 9, 2008 (the Anniversary of our Reception)
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    Hit up another local eatery for a breakfast of cream cheese & marionberry french toast, hash browns, sausage, and orange slices.  Mmm.  Then it was on to the main event: the Oregon Coast Aquarium!!
    Note: we deleted most of the pictures we took because they were horribly blurry.  Here’s the best ones.
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    Seahorses.  The red one slightly upsidedown at the bottom of the picture was going through after-birth shudders.  Apparently sea horses will eat the young so the staff gathered up the babies into a bucket and carried them around.  We saw hundreds of baby seahorses a staff member had when we were at the sting ray and striped shark touch pool.
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    ’s favorite animal of the day because they were so happy and friendly . . . and flirtatious.
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    ’s favorite exhibit, the underwater shark pool.  You walk through several underwater tunnels where fish and sharks are co-mingling.
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      Melanie and Cory worked together at Boston Market (holy crap, anyone remember that place? I miss it badly) back in the late 1990’s.
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      When we ate at Local Ocean for dinner on Friday we were almost due North of this location.
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      One of five Oregon Coast lighthouses still in operation.  (In other places lighted buoys are used.)  This picture was taken from Pebble Cove beach where we tried unsuccessfully to fly a kite.  Though that turned out to be fine since we actually weren’t supposed to be flying a kite on this beach as it might disturb nesting habits.
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    There wasn’t much to take a picture of actually inside the light area - where only one person was allowed to go - but it was cool to be up in a lighthouse.
    After our visit at the lighthouse we decided we take a look at the Tillamook Cheese Factory.  Don’t bother, unless you are already in the area.  The drive however was gorgeous.
    For dinner we went to Newport Seafood and Grill in Tigard (about five miles from home) where we ate some more amazing seafood.  Coconut prawns and clam chowder as appetizers (the only chowder Lissie has ever liked, it was so good).  Cory had salmon stuffed with crab and shrimps along with some mashed potatoes.  Lissie had hazelnut-crusted halibut and basmati rice.
    Happy Day(s).
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  • Reader Question from Anonymous:

    <i>My daughter was married on 6/7/08 and six weeks into the marriage my new son-in-law says he doesn’t love her like that anymore. They are currently in counseling, individual and couples. They have been together for 5 years and now he is breaking her heart. She wants to work this out and he does not….the emotional roller coaster is painful for everyone. If he isn’t willing to try and make it work, how can I in good concience encourage her to keep trying as he continues to cause her pain? We never saw this coming and neither did she…..when do you give up?</i>

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  • Here are my answers to your questions for round 2:

    robertsm.85 said…Taking the whole experience, from the proposal to the end of the reception, when you think back to your wedding what few bits of advice would you give to a couple going through the process of getting married?

    Well, Robert (and Joe, who echoed this question), this is such a good question that I think I’ll answer it in full in a future post, so be sure to stop by again later this week. In brief, I can say that I would have given more thought to finances, planned the proposal better, and planned the wedding a little better.

    persistentillusion said…If you could live in any time period, when would it be?

    I can honestly say that I am really happy to be living right now, for a multitude of reasons: 1) There is so little disease, 2) Everyone gets to be educated & relatively wealthy, and 3) I have the opportunity to hear the gospel of Christ and share it freely with others.

    Anonymous said… What advice would you give to a wife who wishes her husband read this blog? Don’t get me wrong, my husband is my best friend, and the true love of my life, but there are moments when I wish he would set aside the materials of the world for spiritual, learn that you have to work for the things you get, and that family is first.

    I would say you could 1) send him a link to the website 2) print off an article that you especially like and give it to him, explaining why you think it’s important, or 3) throw a fit like a little girl and whine until he finally reads something, just to make you happy, then he walks away and never comes near the site again. I prefer one of the first two. Joking aside, you can’t force a man to read advice, or he’ll never take it. Suggest it, pray for it, but don’t force the issue.

    jlc said… How can I reconnect with my wife while overcoming porn/lust addiction?

    It’s going to be difficult for each person and each couple. For some it can take years for the healing to take place. It sounds like you are on the right track with counseling, prayer, and talking to your pastor, but remember that it can take years to recover from any serious addiction. Just be as loving as you can and allow your wife to come to you on her own terms. You might even ask her, as gently and lovingly as possible, what it would take for her to forgive you. Then do it.

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  • What Women Think of Daddy Blogging

    I’m very excited to announce a new guest post series - What Women Think of Daddy Blogging.
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  • Good morning!  I hope everyone had a fabulous weekend.  That’s right, I used the word fabulous! 
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    6th Wedding Anniversary.  Sometimes I can hardly believe that it’s been that long, and at the same time, I know that it’s no time at all compared to those couples that have been married for over 50/60 years (that’s my goal). 
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    1. Decide what romantic thing you’re going to do for your spouse this week.  Could be anything.  From as simple as giving a foot rub to planning a romantic date, to planning a romantic vacation, the idea is for you to do something.
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    2. Let us know what you’re going to plan by leaving a comment below.  If you want it to be a surprise, then just give a general idea (I’m planning a date), or, if it will help you get rolling, leave as much detail as you want to. 
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    3. Let us know what will motivate you to make sure it happens.  Plan a reward for yourself, or plan consequences if you fail, but make sure that it happens!  My goal as A Good Husband is to help inspire all the guys out there to go the extra mile, and, even more so, to make sure that I go the extra mile.  I want my wife to know that she is incredibly special, and this is a great way for me to do that.
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    ‘re going to the Oregon Coast, I won’t say anything more than that).  On top of planning the vacation, however, since I’m writing this post, I am going to make sure that I give my wife flowers as if I were a Victorian Gentleman.  We’ll see how that works out.
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