A Good Husband
Marriage Advice From A Man
A New Year’s Resolution for My Marriage
Author: Cory H.1 Jan
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This year I have only three goals. One of them is to be there for my wife as she pursues her dreams. She has recently had a renaissance in her life and has expressed to me her desire to accomplish certain things. It is easy, when someone reveals their Big Dream, to express dismay and doubt that someone can accomplish something that big.
I think that the way that I can show her I love her is by being there for her, encouraging her every step of the way. I can’t do these things for her, or even really give advice on how it’s done. Instead, I must resolve myself to always be positive, never doubt her.
While the physical resources that I can provide her are limited, I will do what I can in that area.
The emotional resources, however, I can provide far more of. I can pick her up when she’s down. I can be excited and enthusiastic when she shares her successes. I can listen, refrain from giving advice, and offer a shoulder to cry on when she shares her failures. While I can’t make all the hurt go away, I can certainly be her safe place to land. I can make sure I never hurt her more than the world will already hurt her.
Very few women are as spiritually and emotionally strong as my wife. Her strength has been forged through years of trial more difficult than most people can imagine. I can give her this gift in the New Year - I will be there for her.
4 Responses for "A New Year’s Resolution for My Marriage"
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Hi,
You sound like a great husband. My first thought was,
is this guy for real?? I wish my husband was unselfish like that. Your wife is blessed. Sometimes, no often, I wonder if I should move on. We have been married for almost 14 yrs. Most of them have been because of me hangin on. It seems like I am always giving and he is always taking. I wonder what it’s like to feel real love.
Not selfish love.
Cindy
Keep loving him, Cindy. You’ve invested 14 years of your life in your marriage: don’t give up now. If you keep focusing on the reasons you love him, it will help. I’ve found the more I focus on the positive aspects of my relationship with my husband (and on his positive qualities), the better my relationship is. Don’t keep score, please. It’s so detrimental to your marriage.
Take care. Unselfish love will come from him when you’re not looking.
Denise
This was beautiful. And for YOU to express so openly to people is wonderful. I appreciate this blog and what your doing. Thank You for being who You are =)
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