6 Responses for "Reader Questions: Need Some Advice?"

1. concerned March 16th, 2009 at 6:35 pm 1

   I am recently married and my spouse needs to do a 90 day sentence for driving while suspended…as crazy as it is and despite how much he has changed his past seems to come back to hurt him. What are some of your suggestions on how we should stay strong and connected and build on our marriage?
   Thanks,
   Concerned

2. PETER ADDO May 6th, 2009 at 12:55 pm 2

   PLEAE HOW CAN I MAKE A GOOD CHOICE OF MY WIFE TO BE IN FUTURE

3. Marisol May 13th, 2009 at 4:25 pm 3

   My husband and i been together for six years and have two children together. i recently found out that he was looking at multiple women on the internet and especially one female that happens to be his co worker. besides looking at other women for several months he also was looking at porngraphy. when i confronted him he said was obsessed with the one female. now he wants me to forgive him and move on what should i do/

4. Jennifer August 21st, 2009 at 4:11 pm 4

   My husband and I married three months ago after a whirlwind courtship. It’s neither of our first marriage. He is a general counsel and is very dedicated to his job. The problem is, he expects me to take a back seat - sometimes WAAAYY back - to his career. There has been alot of stuff going on at his company and he has completely let it take over our life. He does not talk to me, rarely discusses anything with me, never kisses me nor is intimate in any way. I know he loves me but he keeps using his job as the reason for all these changes. As an example, he left to travel on Monday and it’s now Friday and he has not made one phone call to me. He emails me and that is it. Am I supposed to be THAT understanding? I feel abandoned - emotionally and physically. When I try to ask him about it, he gets angry and is rather mean. I don’t want to live a life like this. I feel as if I should be a higher priority to him…not just when it’s convenient.

   Am I wrong? He says I’m being selfish and that he needs a supportive spouse who understands how important his work is. Well I work too…he doesn’t pay my bills so I am not sure what benefit I’m supposed to be receiving by sacrificing my husband to this job.

   What should I do? How can I approach him without making him angry OR do I need to take more drastic action?

5. maria September 10th, 2009 at 4:24 am 5

   hello, i would really appreciate you answering my question bc i dont know who else to turn to. I have been married to my husband for 3 years now and we have a beautiful 2 year old son. We both got married in our early twenties and were both virgins.

   While dating…the passion was HOT! we couldnt keep our hands off each other and the wedding night was AMAZING!!!

   But now after 3 yrs of marriage and esp after our son. The sex is not good. First there is no passion, no romance. Its like get it done and off we go!

   I dont know what to do!! I know there has to be more than this to sex! But since he’s the only person ive been with…i cant be sure!

   Its to the point now i dont want to have sex…i feel like an object not a person. Plz let me know what i should do!! Im at the end of myself here….

6. Tina November 22nd, 2009 at 9:24 pm 6

   Hi,

   I don’t know where to start…my husband and I have been married for 2 years. We both are so busy. He even goes to work on Saturday and I am in graduate school. On Sundays, it is his time to watch football with his friend. Today, we argued again, and I felt so tired afterwards that I just packed my stuff and moved out.

   I don’t know what to do at all. If I have lots of money, I would buy an airplane ticket and left. These arguments made my bones dried up . I really wondered sometimes whether my life would be better if I did not marry.