Comments on: Romance? What is Romance?

By: Sharat

Sharat — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 01:42:44 +0000

my wife loves potato fries so today on the way back home from work I decided to get her some on a whim. I had to run several blocks though to make my bus connections on time. But the expression on her face was worth it. She does small stuff like this more frequently than I do. I guess this is our ongoing romance.

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By: Steven Fisher

Steven Fisher — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 06:05:27 +0000

I didn’t bother entering the contest, because I don’t have any big romantic moments. Instead, I buy flowers for non-occasions, cook for her, do the dishes when she doesn’t expect it, rub oil into her back… whatever.

I don’t honestly know if she recognizes this as my attempt to be romantic or not. There’s lots of room for me to improve. But I came here because I put effort into other areas of development, so why not romance as well?

Steven Fishers last blog post..NERD

By: Michael

Michael — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 03:14:35 +0000

Good observations. I felt bad/weird that my “Most Romantic” was my proposal as well. That’s why I even checked it with my wife first.

But in reality, since you asked for the “Most Romantic Thing”, you probably could have expected most of the stories would have been related to the “big” moments — proposals, weddings, having a baby, etc.

You’re right that the romance of marriage is in the day to day. Like Hayden says, the romance starts to really shine in the little things.

Particularly once you have kids. There aren’t many opportunities for big romance moments when one won’t fall asleep until 10 and the other is awake and in your bed at 3 AM thinking there’s a dragon in the closet.

So you create a few “special” moments, but you thrive on the glances, the smiles, the funny things the kids do and say, and the little gestures of love in the day-to-day.

I agree with the thrust of your post… but echo the sentiment that “you got what you asked for” by asking for the “MOST” romantic thing.

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By: Hayden Tompkins

Hayden Tompkins — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 20:06:27 +0000

This is a really hard question to answer. For me and Chris it isn’t so much an activity or event… It’s his attitude towards me and our marriage. He’ll do anything if he knows it will make me happy.

For instance, yesterday we made pumpkin cookies together. Not particularly ‘romantic’ unless you take in the fact that he probably won’t eat most of them. Or the way he brings me water, turns on the fan, and doesn’t leave his underwear on the floor.

It’s a bunch of little things that show he considers me - my happiness and well being - and does them without any fanfare or expectation of a pat on the back.

He does a thousand little acts of service that make me feel loved and adored and appreciated.

So I don’t know. If that isn’t romance, then what is?

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