Just because the blog is titled A Good Husband doesn’t necessarily mean that I am that all of the time. Even the best of men can fall down and make a mess of things.
Sometimes it’s easy, after marriage has been going smoothly for a while, to become lax. How many guys dread hearing, “We need to talk?” It’s amazing how oblivious I can be about where my marriage is at in the eyes and heart of my wife. I think, and hope for my sake, that many men can identify with this feeling.
If “We Need to Talk” is a surprise to you, then that’s a warning sign. Just because you don’t think the relationship needs work, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t. I’ve found that a wife can figuratively beat her head against the wall trying to get something across to her husband – and he can one day hear it and say to her, “Well why didn’t you tell me you felt this way before?”
I’ve done myself, my marriage, and all of you a disservice. When I started writing, it was with a passion for improving my marriage. As I wrote, many things seemed to resonate with people and this site started to become popular. The allure of popularity is strong. Twitter and other social media sites made me feel like I was really getting better at marriage – when really, all I was doing was becoming a moderately well known blogger.
Becoming a well known blogger is not what makes a good husband. Improving yourself and caring for your wife make you a good husband.
Daily care, devotion, and attention to her feelings – that’s what makes a good husband.
Validating her feelings – making sure she knows that you care about what she thinks and feels – is more important than being right or winning.
She cares a great deal for you, and feeling rejected or belittled makes her feel ill.
Femininity is different than masculinity, and that’s a good thing.
Husbands, when your wife says We Need to Talk, please listen.
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