Well said and I agree. Like many, I’ve been friends with one or both partners where a relationship or marriage breaks down and it always comes down to this in some aspect. People get lazy and complacent. When that happens, you just need it to be frustrating long enough for one of the people in the relationship. If the problems can’t be solved for whatever reason — maybe the partner no longer cares, maybe they’ve changed. Add to this meeting a person that gives you what your partner is not, listening, empathy whatever and before you know it — affair.

Although thankfully it has not happened to me or by me, I’ve seen good people and good couples end up in an affair and/or divorced.

But if I’m adding to your list, I would suggest that a wife listed to what he says about the female coworkers he has or how he spends his day. Affairs don’t just appear– they usually happen gradually.

And I’d also say that a wife should be checking inward to find if there’s some sin or some reason why the husband is looking elsewhere.

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I had a conversation with my hub about a month ago where I point blank told him I knew he had been attracted to a woman he use to work with. He admitted he was. I told him that being attracted to other people can easily happen it is where you go with it that creates the problem.

Women also have affairs Cory. Frankly, I would be more concerned about myself than my hub. I don’t plan on it but I do feel more vulnerable than I think he is.

Good post.