Comments on: Retrospective: Divorce is Too Easy http://agoodhusband.net/2008/12/retrospective-divorce-is-too-easy/ Marriage Advice From A Man Wed, 08 Sep 2010 04:47:08 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Shawn http://agoodhusband.net/2008/12/retrospective-divorce-is-too-easy/#comment-728 Shawn Sun, 11 Jan 2009 23:26:10 +0000 http://agoodhusband.net/?p=1071#comment-728 Divorce is just a nice way of saying abandonment. When things get rough and I can't have my way, I'm gonna abandon you. This isn't happening! Run and hide! There's no love in abandonment. You gotta honor and respect those vows. You know, that promise that you both made before GOD, the preacher, and all those witnesses you invited to your wedding. Specifically the part about 'till death do you part. The first two years for my wife and I were rougher than brillo! I knew we wern't gonna make it. But we did. We just kinda hung in there, and with a little work and some time, problems and difficulties just seemed to pass. Now, we have a bunch of new problems! But I'm sure that they will pass as well. They have to. I can't abandon my wife, no matter how many times she burns dinner. Divorce is just a nice way of saying abandonment. When things get rough and I can’t have my way, I’m gonna abandon you. This isn’t happening! Run and hide! There’s no love in abandonment. You gotta honor and respect those vows. You know, that promise that you both made before GOD, the preacher, and all those witnesses you invited to your wedding. Specifically the part about ’till death do you part. The first two years for my wife and I were rougher than brillo! I knew we wern’t gonna make it. But we did. We just kinda hung in there, and with a little work and some time, problems and difficulties just seemed to pass. Now, we have a bunch of new problems! But I’m sure that they will pass as well. They have to. I can’t abandon my wife, no matter how many times she burns dinner.

]]> By: Lauren http://agoodhusband.net/2008/12/retrospective-divorce-is-too-easy/#comment-711 Lauren Wed, 07 Jan 2009 14:08:50 +0000 http://agoodhusband.net/?p=1071#comment-711 Marriage is a covenant and not meant to be broken easily. It is so much harder to stay and work things out. My husband and I will have been married for 7 years this June. The past four have presented several issues ranging from two episodes of severe postpartum depression to coping with a birth defect of our second daughter to discovering a drug addiction and dealing with the aftermath. We're now on stage two of recovery from the addiction - dealing with the behaviors that were self-medicated and learned during the years he was addicted. It's looking like we're going to end up losing connection with some family members over that particular ordeal too. Life isn't always easy. I have learned so much over the past few years and am grateful for all that I've gone through. But when it's at the hardest I'm reminded that God doesn't send more than He thinks you can handle your way. And as Mother Theresa once said, I'm glad God trusts me, I just wish he didn't trust me so much! <abbr><em><abbr><em>Laurens last blog post..<a href="http://postpartumdadsproject.org/2009/01/03/helping-wife-with-housework-helped-our-marriage/" rel="nofollow">Helping Wife with Housework Helped our Marriage</a></em></abbr></abbr></em> Marriage is a covenant and not meant to be broken easily. It is so much harder to stay and work things out. My husband and I will have been married for 7 years this June. The past four have presented several issues ranging from two episodes of severe postpartum depression to coping with a birth defect of our second daughter to discovering a drug addiction and dealing with the aftermath. We’re now on stage two of recovery from the addiction - dealing with the behaviors that were self-medicated and learned during the years he was addicted. It’s looking like we’re going to end up losing connection with some family members over that particular ordeal too. Life isn’t always easy. I have learned so much over the past few years and am grateful for all that I’ve gone through. But when it’s at the hardest I’m reminded that God doesn’t send more than He thinks you can handle your way. And as Mother Theresa once said, I’m glad God trusts me, I just wish he didn’t trust me so much!

Laurens last blog post..Helping Wife with Housework Helped our Marriage

]]> By: Laurie http://agoodhusband.net/2008/12/retrospective-divorce-is-too-easy/#comment-687 Laurie Thu, 01 Jan 2009 20:31:18 +0000 http://agoodhusband.net/?p=1071#comment-687 I've been married 24 years now. It has had many bumps (mountains) in the road. It was the commitment that has kept me here. I think that has helped us the most was getting counseling a couple of years ago and learning more how to be differentiated. With this I have learned more about how to take care of myself and let him take care of him. I felt responsible for him and he was really fine with that but it was too much. It is difficult to be responsible for someone you can't control. Now I am better at not letting his responses determine my way, letting him determine his own way, and enjoying our relationship. I’ve been married 24 years now. It has had many bumps (mountains) in the road. It was the commitment that has kept me here. I think that has helped us the most was getting counseling a couple of years ago and learning more how to be differentiated. With this I have learned more about how to take care of myself and let him take care of him. I felt responsible for him and he was really fine with that but it was too much. It is difficult to be responsible for someone you can’t control. Now I am better at not letting his responses determine my way, letting him determine his own way, and enjoying our relationship.

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