Comments on: Could You Forgive Your Spouse for Cheating? http://agoodhusband.net/2008/12/could-you-forgive-your-spouse-for-cheating/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=could-you-forgive-your-spouse-for-cheating Marriage Advice From A Man Sun, 29 Jan 2012 11:58:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: SusanVangHang http://agoodhusband.net/2008/12/could-you-forgive-your-spouse-for-cheating/#comment-1990 SusanVangHang Mon, 23 Jan 2012 00:02:55 +0000 http://agoodhusband.net/?p=1040#comment-1990 Tell him the truth, you love him, but don't trust him. My husband has cheated on me, and I tell him everyday that I don't trust him and I feel like a pathetic loser when I stand next to him. The only reason why I am here is because I am forced to love him. I love him with no trust and it destroys me as much as I now destroy our relationship. Tell him the truth, you love him, but don’t trust him. My husband has cheated on me, and I tell him everyday that I don’t trust him and I feel like a pathetic loser when I stand next to him. The only reason why I am here is because I am forced to love him. I love him with no trust and it destroys me as much as I now destroy our relationship.

]]> By: SusanVangHang http://agoodhusband.net/2008/12/could-you-forgive-your-spouse-for-cheating/#comment-1989 SusanVangHang Sun, 22 Jan 2012 23:52:26 +0000 http://agoodhusband.net/?p=1040#comment-1989 You never stop feeling sick. Everytime you think about it, it tears you up inside, and you want to rip into him too. To leave scars on him like he's left on you. You never stop feeling sick. Everytime you think about it, it tears you up inside, and you want to rip into him too. To leave scars on him like he’s left on you.

]]> By: Irene http://agoodhusband.net/2008/12/could-you-forgive-your-spouse-for-cheating/#comment-1919 Irene Wed, 14 Sep 2011 01:41:43 +0000 http://agoodhusband.net/?p=1040#comment-1919 My husband is not the first time cheated me. 9 yrs ago he went for body massage and being scatched by the lady on his body during his oversea trip. He came back and told me that he may worried he is infected by HIV. He told me about this incident after 3 weeks when he refuse to have sex with me. Again during his recent business trip, he hug and asking a GRO to make a kiss mark on his arm. I found that he is totally different when he came back from the trip. I started to suspect and keep on approaching him. After 3 weeks, when he is totally scare during the intercourse, I started to stop and approaching him. At the end, he admitted done something that hurt me. The way he tell me it seems not so honestly and open. At last, I have forgiven him as I do not want to spoil my children's life and the family. He promised that he will never ever repeated the same mistake and if he did so, the condition is I will not hesitate to commit suicide (as requested by me). I will want him to regret for the rest of his life and face the sadness & blame on his own. He started to care more about me and everytime when he wanted to hold and hug me, it making me remember the pain. Anyone can give me some advice. My husband is not the first time cheated me.
9 yrs ago he went for body massage and being scatched by the lady on his body during his oversea trip. He came back and told me that he may worried he is infected by HIV. He told me about this incident after 3 weeks when he refuse to have sex with me.

Again during his recent business trip, he hug and asking a GRO to make a kiss mark on his arm. I found that he is totally different when he came back from the trip. I started to suspect and keep on approaching him. After 3 weeks, when he is totally scare during the intercourse, I started to stop and approaching him. At the end, he admitted done something that hurt me. The way he tell me it seems not so honestly and open.

At last, I have forgiven him as I do not want to spoil my children’s life and the family. He promised that he will never ever repeated the same mistake and if he did so, the condition is I will not hesitate to commit suicide (as requested by me). I will want him to regret for the rest of his life and face the sadness & blame on his own.
He started to care more about me and everytime when he wanted to hold and hug me, it making me remember the pain.

Anyone can give me some advice.

]]> By: Lynn http://agoodhusband.net/2008/12/could-you-forgive-your-spouse-for-cheating/#comment-1916 Lynn Mon, 12 Sep 2011 20:35:45 +0000 http://agoodhusband.net/?p=1040#comment-1916 I just want to ask anyone a question. Cheating is one thing, what about if your husband has cheated on you your entire married life. Now, all of a sudden, he is repentant and claims that he didn't realize how much he loved you before, that he got married too young and he is ready to never do it again. He is working very hard and trying to do the best he can to prove how much he has changed for the past three months. He is still out of the house, because, I, the wife, am very scared to let him back into my life. What do you think? I would like to give it a try, but I feel like such a fool! It is very hard to even think about trusting him again. I am very hurt and disappointed. Can someone out there tell me if that ever happened to you? What did you do? Thanks! I just want to ask anyone a question. Cheating is one thing, what about if your husband has cheated on you your entire married life. Now, all of a sudden, he is repentant and claims that he didn’t realize how much he loved you before, that he got married too young and he is ready to never do it again. He is working very hard and trying to do the best he can to prove how much he has changed for the past three months. He is still out of the house, because, I, the wife, am very scared to let him back into my life. What do you think? I would like to give it a try, but I feel like such a fool! It is very hard to even think about trusting him again. I am very hurt and disappointed. Can someone out there tell me if that ever happened to you? What did you do?
Thanks!

]]> By: ji http://agoodhusband.net/2008/12/could-you-forgive-your-spouse-for-cheating/#comment-1914 ji Sun, 11 Sep 2011 21:56:04 +0000 http://agoodhusband.net/?p=1040#comment-1914 ...and people wonder why I'm seriously contemplating NOT getting married...I could just take the single parent adoption route..I don't need a husband for that. …and people wonder why I’m seriously contemplating NOT getting married…I could just take the single parent adoption route..I don’t need a husband for that.

]]> By: Poor Choice http://agoodhusband.net/2008/12/could-you-forgive-your-spouse-for-cheating/#comment-1913 Poor Choice Sun, 11 Sep 2011 20:25:32 +0000 http://agoodhusband.net/?p=1040#comment-1913 Dex: Do you still subscribe to this site? Your story is same as mine. Are you still with your wife? And is everything better? Dex: Do you still subscribe to this site? Your story is same as mine. Are you still with your wife? And is everything better?

]]> By: luzia http://agoodhusband.net/2008/12/could-you-forgive-your-spouse-for-cheating/#comment-1901 luzia Sat, 27 Aug 2011 21:02:06 +0000 http://agoodhusband.net/?p=1040#comment-1901 We are working things out and I am happy with the decision I made. He is committed to me and our family. I still have rough moments and cry a lot. My situation was worse than I thought. I found out a lot of hurtful things that he did, but still didn't give up. I feel that I spent so many years together already, that it is a shame to waste them as long as HE is doing all he can to gain my trust back. We are working things out and I am happy with the decision I made. He is committed to me and our family. I still have rough moments and cry a lot. My situation was worse than I thought. I found out a lot of hurtful things that he did, but still didn’t give up. I feel that I spent so many years together already, that it is a shame to waste them as long as HE is doing all he can to gain my trust back.

]]> By: Valerie http://agoodhusband.net/2008/12/could-you-forgive-your-spouse-for-cheating/#comment-1891 Valerie Mon, 22 Aug 2011 16:08:37 +0000 http://agoodhusband.net/?p=1040#comment-1891 I have to tell you I am so glad we worked it out. I have an amazing family. I hate to say it was meant to be but we are so much closer and have an amazing bond. I thought we were close before he cheated. It's been 2 years since he cheated and still treats me like a queen. I have to tell you I am so glad we worked it out. I have an amazing family. I hate to say it was meant to be but we are so much closer and have an amazing bond. I thought we were close before he cheated. It’s been 2 years since he cheated and still treats me like a queen.

]]> By: Tera http://agoodhusband.net/2008/12/could-you-forgive-your-spouse-for-cheating/#comment-1887 Tera Sun, 21 Aug 2011 12:45:43 +0000 http://agoodhusband.net/?p=1040#comment-1887 I will be the first to admit I ALWAYS said if he ever cheated on me I wouldn't tolerate it at all. We have been married 19 years, together 21, we have 4 children and I had no clue he was cheating. My mother cheated on her husband of 26 years so my husband would no longer let her around our kids because he didn't want them to think what she did was right. The other woman contacted me thru social website (love the Internet) then we spoke over the phone. At the end of the phone call I told her that I would be staying with my husband and would try to work everything out. Their affair lasted 4 months, he worked in another country so he was there 28 days home 28 days so basically even tho the Spanish of time was 4 months they were only together for 2 of them....not that it makes it any better!! After telling the other woman I was going to work it out she immediately tried to talk me out of it saying she couldn't see how I could keep him after him being with another women that she couldn't. I told her that I had 20+ years with the man vs her 4 months...AND 4 kids with him! I of course had conditions if I stayed, 1. He has to except my mother back into our lives since he became such a hypocrite this one was extremely important to me..well all conditions were. 2. He had to go to his mother and confess to her (she is an extremely devought Catholic woman!! 3. We were going to start going back to church as a family. 4 He had to go to confession and confess his infidelity and get his pennance (this part was a great experience and was a turning point for me)! 5. As odd as this condition is it was important to me...he had to quit smoking! I also gave him my wedding ring and told him to do something with it, he replied saying he wanted to put it on my finger, I replied with that's not an option. It is in our safe right now and I told him that that ring is trust, when I gain his trust back he can put it back on my finger. I can honestly say I feel like I have started to forgive him in my heart but not in my head. I def have good days and bad days, the smallest of things send me into crying fits. He is VERY committed to doing whatever it takes to get thru this. He has quit the job that kept him from home, has absolutely NO CONTACT with the other woman and has given me full access to anything I want or need when it comes to them. I don't really care if people out there disagree with my decision to stay in my marriage because it's MY DECISION. Hopefully of the ones here didn't have to endure the harassment from the other women that I have had to go thru, I have had to delete social media accounts, and change my phone number due to her harassing us just trying to split us up. I have no doubt we will come thru this a stronger, better couple it's just gonna take some time, how much time who knows! Forgot, another condition was counseling which we have started and it's wonderful! I will be the first to admit I ALWAYS said if he ever cheated on me I wouldn’t tolerate it at all. We have been married 19 years, together 21, we have 4 children and I had no clue he was cheating. My mother cheated on her husband of 26 years so my husband would no longer let her around our kids because he didn’t want them to think what she did was right. The other woman contacted me thru social website (love the Internet) then we spoke over the phone. At the end of the phone call I told her that I would be staying with my husband and would try to work everything out. Their affair lasted 4 months, he worked in another country so he was there 28 days home 28 days so basically even tho the Spanish of time was 4 months they were only together for 2 of them….not that it makes it any better!! After telling the other woman I was going to work it out she immediately tried to talk me out of it saying she couldn’t see how I could keep him after him being with another women that she couldn’t. I told her that I had 20+ years with the man vs her 4 months…AND 4 kids with him! I of course had conditions if I stayed, 1. He has to except my mother back into our lives since he became such a hypocrite this one was extremely important to me..well all conditions were. 2. He had to go to his mother and confess to her (she is an extremely devought Catholic woman!! 3. We were going to start going back to church as a family. 4 He had to go to confession and confess his infidelity and get his pennance (this part was a great experience and was a turning point for me)! 5. As odd as this condition is it was important to me…he had to quit smoking! I also gave him my wedding ring and told him to do something with it, he replied saying he wanted to put it on my finger, I replied with that’s not an option. It is in our safe right now and I told him that that ring is trust, when I gain his trust back he can put it back on my finger. I can honestly say I feel like I have started to forgive him in my heart but not in my head. I def have good days and bad days, the smallest of things send me into crying fits. He is VERY committed to doing whatever it takes to get thru this. He has quit the job that kept him from home, has absolutely NO CONTACT with the other woman and has given me full access to anything I want or need when it comes to them. I don’t really care if people out there disagree with my decision to stay in my marriage because it’s MY DECISION. Hopefully of the ones here didn’t have to endure the harassment from the other women that I have had to go thru, I have had to delete social media accounts, and change my phone number due to her harassing us just trying to split us up. I have no doubt we will come thru this a stronger, better couple it’s just gonna take some time, how much time who knows! Forgot, another condition was counseling which we have started and it’s wonderful!

]]> By: luzia http://agoodhusband.net/2008/12/could-you-forgive-your-spouse-for-cheating/#comment-1812 luzia Mon, 01 Aug 2011 02:26:29 +0000 http://agoodhusband.net/?p=1040#comment-1812 Valerie, Thanks for sharing your experience. I want to work things out and I see changes in him already. It's scary to think about going through this again, though! How did you manage the pain, the memories and to forgive? Valerie,
Thanks for sharing your experience. I want to work things out and I see changes in him already. It’s scary to think about going through this again, though! How did you manage the pain, the memories and to forgive?

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