Marriage Advice from My Wife
“The pendulum on equal rights has swung so far the other direction that men are being painted with a cruel brush, coloring them as inherently crass, vulgar, uncaring, and violent taskmasters. They aren’t. Equality as sameness has never been, will never be, the issue. What we want is consideration, companionship, and balance.”
~ my wife
Obviously I love, respect and admire my wife a great deal. When we were first married I started noticing a lot of guys that I knew making jokes about how their wives were better people than they were. More spiritual, better dressed, more kind, and better parents. Somehow many men are buying into the extreme feminist notion that men are inherently less appealing than women. I started to go along with it. I’d make jokes about her being better than me to other guys and they’d laugh knowingly. Women would laugh and agree.
It bothered my wife, though. After hearing me a few times she asked me to stop. When I asked her why, she told me to look at it from the point of view of how me being so much less makes her judgement look. If I’m really worth so little, and she’s worth so much, then why would she have chosen to marry me in the first place. Either I duped her, or she settled. Obviously neither choice is satisfactory.
I had to stop telling people that she was so much better than me, and honestly, it’s been good for our relationship.
The Bible talks about being equally yoked together. Most likely you and your spouse chose each other because you had common skills, interests, and/or backgrounds. When you were dating you felt equal to being with each other. Hopefully you will continue to embrace and uplift each other so that you both feel up to facing whatever challenges you face.
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That’s truly a proper perspective, right on the money. It’s absolutely true: if one partner is so much “better” than the other, then what is the attraction of the inferior partner to the superior one? The only stance that does not demean both male & female is the stance of equality. Difference, yes. Inferiority, no.
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You two are such wonderful examples to the rest of the married world!
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I agree with that. What I don’t get is why do people try to make males and females the same? We do things different and may in general excel somethings more than the other gender (with lots of exceptions). I agree with the comment above for both genders “Difference, yes. Inferiority, no”.
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I’ve said it before, but your wife is a SMART woman.
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