What will 25 years married look like?

by Cory H. on October 29, 2008

Some time ago, my wife’s parents celebrated their 25th anniversary.  I can’t even imagine what 25 years married will look like. 

My wife and I were discussing what our marriage goals are and we decided that one that we both share is to be that old couple that everyone goes “wow” at when they hear how long they’ve been married.  How cool would that be?

Some people laugh in scorn and derision at the idea of a blissfully happy couple.  They might think that all a couple can be after 25 years together is annoyed and quarrelsome.  My wife can attest that her father’s temper has gone away over the last 25 years, and her mother is more motherly and loving now than ever.

At our silver anniversary, we will probably be that couple laughing behind our hands as people ask us for sage advice on how we did it, what’s the secret?  We’ll tell them pithy things like “never go to be angry, communicate, and put your partner first.”  Then we’ll laugh as we’re capering out of the party.

The real secret to our marriage has been the ability to laugh at ourselves and not take things so seriously.  Marriage is challenging enough as it is.  Lighten up!  We’ve been married six years.  In that time it doesn’t seem like a lot has happened, but in the 25 years since my in-laws were married:

  • The 9/11 attacks on the World Trade Center & the Pentagon.
  • War in Iraq & Afghanistan.
  • The Microwave
  • The Berlin Wall fell
  • The USSR fell
  • The stock market crashed – 3 times.
  • The Challenger Space Shuttle blew up
  • The Internet was invented

Through all of that, their love has grown and become stronger.  They are more together now than they’ve ever been, and that’s how I want Lissie and I to be.  I look forward to it.  Could there be anyone luckier than a young couple with 19 years to go until their 25th anniversary?

I didn’t think so.

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I didn't really get bored in my loving family until I got married and my life changed alot I couldn't beleive it because my husband is right by my side like the people in the picture but not mad at each other,our wedding day was just so loving and for our caring and helpful children our relationship will last forever.

I did not have the luxury of growing up in a loving family. I do not know what normal is. I have been married 25 years and I look at other relationships and realize that mine is not like that. I would like for someone to tell me what normal is. Is there such a thing? I think i've missed the boat somewhere. I have a loving, loyal, committed husband. However we just don't make eachothers "toe's curl" like we did when we were first married.

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oh! my god!I married victor when I was 17 and he was 18
now i am 48 and he is 49 and stil are together, we even own a business and workk togeeeeeether!!!!!!!!! we love it
we get so along to each other, we are better couple now than when we were 17 and 18 years of age!
long time! but it't like the first time!
we make love all the time
we talk one to another evern sleeping, when we don't like something from each other we talk alooooot, i let him free sometimes and then he comes back and says oh baby no body better than you and then we both laugh, i would say I now...
victor is my best friend we go out dancing, to the gym, shopping, dancing, work together 10 hours every day, we do everything together, I love my husband!!!!!!!!
all you have to do is talk talk talk and if you see him a little strange, jm... kick his a.... kiss get very mmmmmaaad! complaselo gosale ammarralo! con besos carino

OK, I guess I am the oldie here. We'll be celebrating 25 in March. We have really gone through some times when I didn't think we would make it. We've have in-law problems most of our married life. I married an only child whose mom thought that no one should take her son. They now live 3 houses up the street. Lucky me. We also raised a son with depression and mood swings. That was pure hell. That wore on our marriage as we tried to get the help we needed for our son. Now the son is better and has moved off to college and the hub and I have really worked hard to repair and restore our marriage. We are now in the best place ever. I believe he would agree and say we love each other more now than ever. We are closer, and enjoy each other more than ever. The sex life it best ever. So don't think that it has to fall apart when your older. (I'm only 48 so I'm not an antique yet).

I plan to be more adventurous as we get older not less!

In two weeks it will be 20 years for me and mine. It is amazing looking back and seeing all that has occured. Conrats to both for 25 years (and counting).

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we have 21 more years to go. I hope to live to be at least 100 years old so if I make it I plan to celebrate 75 year an anniversary. I guess that's 71 years away.

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We are coming up on our 15th and I can honestly say we are happier now than we were at the start. A big key to the success is like you say, lighten up. We have a lot of fun together and we both love to laugh. It definitely has it's challenges as times, but both of us have an appreciation for what we have found together and so we work through those times.
I think people that enter into marriage with all these perfect ideals are just dooming it. Lose the ideals, enjoy each other, laugh and have fun together, appreciate and respect each other. I think if you can stick to those core agreements, there will be good times ahead.

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