Monday Morning Amour – Biggification Edition

by Cory H. on October 27, 2008

Yesterday Lissie and I spent the afternoon talking about our future.  What are our marriage goals?  What do we want to do over the next few years.  It’s fun to sit and have these kinds of discussions.  Some of the things that we’ve got going on in the near future:

  • Attending an adoption workshop.  We want to adopt.  They want to teach.  Seems like a good fit.
  • More medical testing.  For her, not me.  That ‘ole heart issue doesn’t go away, and the doctor thinks that the tilt test will be helpful.  My wife has her doubts.
  • Starting a business?  Who knew that this website could launch a business?  Stay tuned for details on that.

Anyway, you know the drill:

1. Decide what romantic thing you’re going to do for your spouse this week. Could be anything. From as simple as giving a foot rub to planning a romantic date, to planning a romantic vacation, the idea is for you to do something.

2. Let us know what you’re going to plan by leaving a comment below. If you want it to be a surprise, then just give a general idea (I’m planning a date), or, if it will help you get rolling, leave as much detail as you want to.

3. Let us know what will motivate you to make sure it happens. Plan a reward for yourself, or plan consequences if you fail, but make sure that it happens! My goal as A Good Husband is to help inspire all the guys out there to go the extra mile, and, even more so, to make sure that I go the extra mile. I want my wife to know that she is incredibly special, and this is a great way for me to do that.

This week I’m going to use one of those things that I learned from Dr. Phil’s book: asking the question, “What can I do to show you I love you?”  We all know that it’s a little difficult to always know what our wives want, and Dr. Phil (whether you are a fan or not) hits upon a good suggestion here.  Sometimes your wife has a specific need and asking her what it is can be the perfect way to show her you care.

If I don’t do this by the end of the day today, I will buy her a dozen roses.  I’d rather save the money, but the gesture never hurts…right?

Ladies, do your husbands a favor and let them know what they can do to help you feel loved this week.

Guys, what are you going to do for your wives this week?

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I just came across this site this morning. I was discussing the idea of such a site with a friend, and whamo! already done. We operate a small clustering of blogs that address technical/philosophical/theological/ and just plain interesting stuff at www.scroggles.com, so sites like this are right up our alley. Well done!

The problem with most "tip" sites is that you have to go out of your way to visit the site, but with the blog format all I have to do is add it to my reader. Keep up the good work!

Oh... for my wife. Hmmm, fresh flowers are a must this week. I am usually pretty good about it, but I've been slacking for a few weeks. Perhaps I'll just make up for the recent shortage and go all out, flowers EVERYWHERE!! Well, there is the potential backfire situation, were she to happen upon the receipt :) Maybe just a few bouquets.

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I used to hand write love letters to her before we were married. I realized that it has been nearly 11 years since I've written a heart-felt love letter to my wife. To rectify this problem, I started a blog for my wife. Now I post a lover letter to her on a daily basis.

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I love your site and it has helped me a great deal in being a good husband. Im going to cook her breakfast Saturday morning.

Okay, you hit a nerve. I make the stupid-guy-mistake all the time of plowing forward trying to do something for her that isn't what she wants at all. I give her a back rub the way I like them. And that's just one example of many. I'm going to work every day to find out what she wants before I do the manly thing and jump in head first to be the problem solver. What will motivate me is that I've publicly made a commitment in writing on your site.

I'll be taking my fiancee to The Melting Pot for fondue. I know she loves it, especially the chocolate fondue at the end! (Though I can't honestly say that it's just for her that I'm doing this. :)

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