Picture courtesy of Funny Hub.We all bring baggage into a marriage – but how much of it is from emotional trauma caused by bad relationships?
I spoke with two men recently who made terrible decisions based on relationships gone bad
One went on a 3 month drug/alcohol/sex binge after his girlfriend of 7 years got pregnant by another man. He recognizes that mistake, but it resulted in a child out of wedlock with a woman he says he can’t marry.
One was cheated on by a long time girlfriend who liked the other guy’s money instead of his low tech, healthy lifestyle – obviously she wasn’t honest with him about what she wanted and he either wasn’t honest or didn’t see it. He honestly thinks that girls only care about what your income is, and he thinks that he has to be wealthy to be married. He hates single mothers and thinks they have ruined their lives. Now he chooses to be a serial womanizer and sleeps with anything that moves.
Unfortunately this happens throughout the United States and many parts of the world. I pointed out to the second man that my wife was not a gold digger, nor did she ask to see a tax return before we got engaged. He told me that I was very lucky that my wife was willing to lead a lifestyle that didn’t require a vast amount of wealth, but that most girls require it.
Guys, I have to tell you – it’s a myth. In relationships, as in all aspects of life, you find what you seek out. If you have a bad experience, even a couple of bad experiences, it doesn’t mean that experience is the rule. Obviously there are many women out there who are wonderful, kind, beautiful, humble, fascinating people that are completely worthy of dating, respecting, falling in love with, and marrying. Don’t give up!
