Nonsense. Plenty of women are just as cheap and lazy as the guys. They don’t need emotional attachment at all.

My tip would be turn off the power. It’s that simple.

Walk. This is your life too and you don’t need to spend it with a dishonest, lazy person that would prefer to sit in front of a monitor than spend it with your, involved in the community, learning a second language, taking a class, or just about anything that would be PRODUCTIVE.

Your can’t keep your spouse from wasting his life but you can save yours.

And nobody is worth it. Nobody.

While it surely may be natural to appreciate a well-endowed member of the opposite sex there is nothing the least bit “natural” about rotting your brain and life away being intimate with an electronic monitor of images which are altered and enacting scenes none of the actors would be doing in their normal lives.
Spending 8 hours a week with this even is like a full work day. That’s your LIFE.

Second, it is NOT an addiction, again, medically illiterate tripe. A compulsion perhaps, but I’m more inclined to say it’s just gluttony.

And there’s an easy cure. Turn off the power.
Get a LIFE.

Another good resource for you is http://www.combatingpornography.org.

Best wishes.

First, it could be he is not getting the kind of “sex” he would like to fulfill his fantasies. However, sexuality and intimacy in marriage is best when each participates in a way that is comfortable for both of them. If he, your husband, has things he would like to do that you are not comfortable with, he should respect that and even be willing to work with you, your needs, and your desires. Marriage, afterall, should be seen as a partnership between equals.

Second, his desire to participate in sexual behavior you are not comfortable with may be a result of what he is seeing in the porn he uses. Again, this is not your fault. If this is the case, you unwillingness to participate in his fantasies is his problem, not yours. He should consider the source of his information before expecting you to go along with what he has in mind. I can think of better places to get sex help that would be healthy. Such help, as far as I have seen, has never come from a porn magazine or other porn media.

Third, there may be some other issues with your husband that are not being addressed. Issues that may not be a result of a poor sexual relationship, but other issues where his sense of self and goodness are in question. In this case, his use of porn may be a “release” to deal with whatever negative feelings he is having. If this is the case, the use of pornography is more of a compulsive behavior than an addiction. If this is the case, professional, group, and ecclesiastical help is likely in order.

Whatever the reason your husband is using porn, he needs to understand your feelings on the issue. I know you stated you have told him your feelings about porn and you should continue to be firm and clear in expressing your dissatisfaction with it. He should respect your wishes, having agreed to remain faithful to you and to cling to none else. If porn has become more important to him than honoring his vow to cling to none else, he as violated that sacred contract.

You have some tough decisions to make. I applaud you for seeking help and advice and urge you to continue doing so. Seek professional, group, and ecclesiastical help if you must. I would recommend he seek help as well if he is destroying your relationship over porn; this would be a clear sign of deep problem with porn.

You may even have to consider how much of it you will tolerate. If he continues in this behavior, using porn, disregarding your feelings, and jeopardizing your marriage, you need to decide how much you will take. He needs to know you serious about the matter and that you will not tolerate it.

I wish you the best.