My Husband Plays Xbox too Much: The Xbox Conundrum: Part II

by Cory H. on January 7, 2008


Women are looking for ways to help their husbands play less Xbox. I’ve received a fair amount of traffic to this post from people typing these searches:


“My husband plays xbox too much”


“husband addicted to xbox live”

“my husband plays xbox all the time”

It’s not that women want their husbands to stop playing altogether, but that many men are playing far too much. Well, I asked, how much is too much? I began taking informal surveys of women around me, young and old and came up with a few insightful responses.

One woman said that she read once in Ann Landers that anytime an activity takes time away from things that are important to you and you can’t change how much time you’re spending on it, then you’re addicted to it. Pretty good way to sum it up, if you ask me.

Another woman said that it’s not so much that her husband plays Xbox (or other video games) too much, it’s just that he spends more time on video games than he spends on her.

That’s the important point. She’s not concerned about the activity, but about her.

Men, this is what we have to understand. Our wives aren’t the whining nags that we sometimes think they are. They are sweet, beautiful, lovely women who crave attention from the man that they chose to devote the rest of their lives to. You.

Realizing this, I started asking some of my married guy friends about this problem. In typical guy fashion, the conversation wasn’t very long, but informative nonethless.

One male friend mentioned that while Xbox is just a game or a thing to do, it is also a way of escaping. Women for most part are relationship oriented, they deal with their problems by talking about them. Men deal with their problems by holing up in their cave until they have thought it out, or they’ve distracted themselves enough from the problem that it doesn’t seem as large anymore.

One friend even went so far as to say that if he didn’t have video games, his relationship with his wife and children would suffer. Why? Because when he has a long day at work, then comes home and helps with the kids, plays with them, listens to his wife for a while and shows her he cares about her, he needs some time to himself because he hasn’t been able to unwind and release the stress of the day yet. He does that by escaping into another world where he gets to be a hero or at least a superman of some kind.

Every man needs to feel appreciated and heroic. Video games fulfill this need in some strange, small way. Just enough to release the stress that comes from a regular day of slaying dragons.

So then the question that I come to, which I posed before (and still never really answered), is this: how much time is too much time in front of the video game console?

I think different couples have to work it out in different ways, but it’s true that it has to be worked out. The majority of video game players are over age 30. Halo 3 showed that video games can have bigger opening weekends than some movies. These statistics show that video games are quickly becoming a major part of our entertainment choices. Just like any other issue that comes up in a relationship, if it’s important to one spouse, then it should be treated with respect by the other.

Some suggestions for Good Husbands:

  • Your wife comes first. If she needs your attention, assume that she respects you enough to ask only when it’s important.
  • Talk to your wife about how much you like gaming, why you like it, and how it helps your relationship. Compromise with her on how much time is realistically okay to play.
  • Don’t let games take away from family time. Plan your gaming time, your family time, and alone time with your wife, and don’t let one interfere with the other.
  • Check in with your wife on occasion while you are playing, just to let her know you love her and care about her. After you’re done, go to her and let her know how much you appreciate her.

Some suggestions for wives:

  • Don’t belittle your husband’s love of gaming. Many video games are mature, sophisticated and inspire a great deal of loyalty. Treat it like any other adult hobby. You can’t give a “no video games ever rule.”
  • If your husband needs space, let him have it. Men don’t deal with problems the same way women do. Let them get some stress relief and fun. Don’t talk to him while he’s trying to game.
  • Try playing a game with him. 38% of video games are played by women, and that percentage is growing as developers figure out ways to attract female players.
  • Don’t automatically be available every time your husband is not playing video games. Find things you enjoy doing and schedule them when your husband is playing and you’ll be less stressed about his gaming.

We could use your suggestions. I’m sure I haven’t thought of everything, so I’d love to hear how you sorted it out in your relationships, or how you would sort it out.

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Rob O 5 pts

...continued.

I think there's a self-reinforcing cycle at play here, too. Men tend to go where they find respect. As you accomplish more in gaming and less in real life, you're probably more likely to want to spend more time gaming. If your spouse is telling you you're a loser in real life, you'll want to go where you can get an ego boost. I think that's the reality for some of these guys. I don't think the answer is faking respect, but getting more active in channeling his energy. It doesn't need to be about less time on the Xbox, but about more time doing ______. Be specific, and maybe even plan it out for him. It probably feels like you shouldn't have to plan your dates out together, but you might need to do it to get started. You might need to do the legwork to hook him up with someone that can teach him how to play the guitar, fix a car or whatever, so he can feel the pride of real life accomplishment. I would think that will naturally translate into being more present for most guys. Help steer him towards something that he's expressed interest in, and applaud his efforts in that direction. And find ways to work on your emotional connection. Chances are he's hiding out because your relationship is uncomfortable and he doesn't know how to deal with it. I'd also point out that wives need to be careful with their hobbies, too. After the kids were old enough to not require constant attention, the tables turned and my wife would spend hours upon hours each day on writing or reading fan fiction, shows and other hobbies. There were characters that meant far more to her than me for a number of years. It sometimes still feels that way, actually. So women do this stuff, too, just in a different form. Both partners need to be active and engaged for marriages to grow and work. My wife is coming back to me now and I think we're finally heading towards finding the happiness that we expected.

Rob O 5 pts

Good article (and blog!). It's important to know that some escape from reality is okay and even good at times. I'd also say that the attitude that game playing is inherently immature is dead wrong. Should we shame people who watch television shows for avoiding real life? Only if they take television watching too far, of course, but there's nothing wrong with watching a few shows here or there even though it's the more passive hobby.

But the situations these wives and girlfriends share are just way past the line. Early in my marriage, I pulled something similar on my wife by playing computer games late into the night on most nights. It never totally consumed me, kept from my job, college, etc, but it did real harm to our relationship and I certainly regret it. I think there were a few things behind it.

Being a newly minted adult, it was the first time I had freedom to control most of my time so it seemed like a natural choice. I'd tell myself it was better than most other hobbies because I could be at home and somewhat available. I liked the adrenaline rush and problem-solving aspects of gaming. It was fun to have control over something when, as a college student and employee starting out, I didn't feel a lot of control over what I did during the day. And, honestly, relating to my new wife was surprisingly difficult. I'd try to choose her first if she wanted to do something or I could think of something we could afford to do together, but those ideas often didn't come so it was easier to just hop online.

It did come to strain my ability to function, especially as we had our first child. And that's when I knew I'd had my fun but it was time to spend more time in real life. So it can get better. For the last several years, it would be an unusual week if I spent more than an hour or two on games. If I had stayed hooked, though, it might have taken an intervention to wake me up. My wife would have been right to talk to my friends and family if we were doing the kind of things I hear from these stories. It's a thought.

To be continued...

How women like to unwind after work:
- Talk at (not 'to') their guy about purses, shoes, weight loss, annoying coworkers, annoying coworkers' husbands, Facebook photos, stupid TV shows. We have to pretend to be interested in that stuff.

Men hate this; it is boring and gets old after 5 minutes. Women love to talk about these things for hours. Call your girlfriend instead please.

How men like to unwind after work:
- Numb our brains and mindlessly press Xbox controller buttons while only using 10% of our brain capacity. This is how we 'rest' our brains.

God! If there is anything I hate in this Worls it is the xbox ESP since it got the go live feature . And when I show how many millions of women suffer throughout the World he laughs out loud saying baby this is a common problem u should be happy, duh!

These comments are making tears well up in my eyes. I recently became unemplyed and my fiance has a job only thanks to me. I've started drinking and smoking...spending time of facebook and netflix...rotting my brain to deal with the alienation. He works all day and then when he comes home he plays it until he's ready to go to sleep. I'm currently watching Mad Men and I'm truly saddened that technology has made so many men into mindless, selfish zombies fulfilling fantasies with other men. My ex husband was a REAL army Ranger...call of duty was his true life. He wasn't around much and when he was, he cheated on me and belittled me. However, he didn't spend this much time doing things at home that didn't include me. Sometimes I wonder which is worse...having a sweet faithful man constantly playing video games or a real live Army Ranger who still makes time for me. But also my ex had REAL hobbies...like cycling and motocross. I babysit these children who are intelligent but their dad doesn't take the time to teach them valuable things because he's constantly on WOW. My wedding is in a damn month and my fiance is younger than me...I'm considering going away for awhile until the wedding. His buddies at work on COD are clearly more important. I am hoping it will get better with age- and when we have children but these comments are making me feel he's hopeless.

It seems as though my marriage is not the only one pretty much destroyed by video games. I have been married 8 years but met my husband when I was 17. We have two kids. I'm sure playing video games here and there, or a couple times a week is okay. But why every night until 1 or sometimes past 3 in the morning! You are a grown man with a family. The responsible thing to do is to go to bed with your wife sometimes at a resonance time. Instead he us tired from bring up all night and is nasty to me and the kids all day. Then he rushes to get the kids to bed so he can hurry up and play video games. It makes me sick! He is 35 years old. I know our neighbors husbands don't do this. They are up early on weekends cutting grass and doing family stuff. We have to pry my husband out of bed since he was up all night playing video games. I told him it is ruining our marriage but he doesn't care. We never watch movies anymore and rarely have sex. We have gone 3 and 4 months without having sex because of it. It would be nice to have my husband come to bed with me or to do things together. Every night he ignores me and does his thing. I think it is an awful example for our son too. I have pretty much had it. I'm considering leaving him if this is how it's going to be. I wish he would put half the motivation he puts into his games into anything else. It truly disgusts me for a grown man who has a family. He td me he wants to go back to college to design video games! I just rolled my eyes, what a pipe dream. Pretty soon though his family is going to be a pipe dream if things keep going this way.

Ever since my husband has gotten the xbox he has always put it first he plays long countless hours, we have 2 kids going on 3 now... I am tired of this I always seem like a nag and he gets mad at me and swears or calls me names...I just wanna spend time with him... I want him to actually have normal fun by doing stuff with me and our boys, but instead i only hear him really laugh when hes playing, As i write this I cry...weve been together for going on 6 yrs... first 2 years were the best, he wud actually watch tv with me and go for walks...now everything i do goes unappreciated. Like tonight i wanted to go to sleep at 1230, and i asked if he was going to play games downstairs and he got mad and said does it look like i am gonna play game downstairs! ... I slept on the couch with our ten month old... now its 523 am and i cant sleep. no point ever talking with him either he just gets mad... Im sad but i dont wanna e a nag... im just done

My husband will come home from work and start playing while I am cooking dinner. He won't even get off to eat the food. He just eats it in between matches. I don't know what I hate more: that he yells various things at the tv, that he is taking over the only tv in the house, or that I don't exist for the 6 hours until he goes to bed. We tried to only let him play every other day, but that soon didn't work to his liking. His "friends" would call until he would get on and play with him. I could be in the middle of watching something on the only tv in our house, and I would have stop so that he could play with his friends. How is that fair? He wants to have children, but why would I want something else to watch and take care of while he plays his games with his friends? I have to do all of the house work because he can't be bothered with such tasks. I'm really thinking that these games could be the end of our marriage.

As much as I enjoyed reading each and every one of the comments left by the wives and girlfriends of "men" who are addicted to their game consoles, this article didn't change anything about how I feel when my husband plays for hours at a time. Contrary to most of the women on here, I enjoy watching my husband play different games on his xbox. I have tried to become involved with the games and "help" him play. The issue is that he goes on, what I like to call, game binges. He will buy a game and play it for a week to two weeks every single night he comes home from work. He comes home about ten o'clock every night and will play until three or four in the morning. It drives me insane to hear the same music and sounds every single night for a few weeks at a time. It's like watching the same movie for two weeks in a row. I understand that each level or objective has different dynamics and difficulties, but why can't there be a mixture of games. I love it when he plays the new game L.A. Noire. It's a detective game set in the 1940's. It has amazing graphics and looks very realistic. But the fact that the only thing you do is solve cases can get old. I just wish he would mix it up bit. Play one game one night and another game the next night. Unfortunately, that is not the only issue I have.
I don't always work in the morning, but recently I have. Because the only television we have is in our room, the continual lights and sounds coming from the tv wake me up multiple times a night. This is every single night of the week. I become exhausted during the day because my REM sleep is continually interrupted. It would be nice if he would play for a few hours and we end the night simply talking before the lights were turned out. We never go to bed at the same time. I grew up hearing my parents go to bed around the same time every night and talking about their day and what they wanted to do that weekend. I would really enjoy laying in bed, spending a half an hour or so, having small discussions. Our communication levels have gone way down. We used to go on dates at least once a week. Now, I am lucky to get him to go out with me once a month. I will suggest going to dinner, or to a movie; when the time comes to leave, he doesn't feel like leaving the house, or he wants to beat this level in a game.
I really don't ask for very much in our relationship. I understand that he needs that time to relax and escape, but there are things in our lives that really need to come before our pleasures. I work about the same amount of hours each week that he does. Yet I do not waste hours occupying my attention to a screen. Yes, we as females deal with things differently than men do, but I don't spend six to seven hours a day thinking about what I need to do. If I did, the laundry, dishes, and other miscellaneous chores would not be done. He will occasionally put the clothes into the washer and then into the dryer, but will leave them on the bed for me to fold. Sorry, I didn't realize that allowing the washer and dryer to do their job was a job in its self. It would just be nice to see him do more than beat a game each week.

I am crying while reading your comments because my boyfriend is addict too.He comes from work and all he does is play xbox from 5pm to 2am.He doesn't shower,eat, or use the bathroom. He also misses work about 1-3 days a week of work.Thank god he hasn't gotten fired. I dont know what to do or what to tell him that i haven't said. If this is how it is now when were just boyfriend girlfriend.What makes me think that when were married things will change.That ill have a husband who goes to work everyday .A husband that comes home to take a shower and have dinner with me. That will watch the news or a show maybe even a movie.Or i could be doing my own thing and he his but he would be more accesible for me to talk to him. Not like when he comes from work and i cant even talk to him because of that stupid headset he has on. I can imagine spending the rest of my life with him but with out and xbox. I love him but i wish he could change. I would be making a big mistake to marry him.He 22yrs old and i am sure he wont stop playing not in 2yrs 5 or even 10. I feel neglected and unwanted. He is a great guy but that xbox makes him a horrible person. I am going to have one last talk with him if i feel nothings going to change i am leaving far away from him so i dont make the mistake of going back.I am going to fight one more time with that stupid xbox i cant let a stupid piece of plastic be win me.

I have just read your article and I would like to answer your question on "how much is to much". First let me tell you a little bit about my relationship with my husband. We were dating for a about 3 months...the first time we were intimate I became pregnant with our daughter. One month later we got married. We have been married 4 years in December. Yes it was fast, and YES it was/has been very hard. We also have a 8 month old son. If he is not connected to the "crack machine" (xbox) he is on his lap top, if not his lap top his smart phone, if not his smart phone, its his kinddle. I realize that he needs a break when he gets home and I do not reprimand him on playing his "crack machine" or whatever else he decides to get on. The problem stands, that I am a stay at home mom. So I deal with our children all day long and would like to "clock out" sometimes. This momma needs a break! And I look to their father for that. But it never happens...as soon as he walks in the door until the time we are ready for bed he is on some kind of contraption. What gets me the most he that our 3 year old daughter will cry out to him for attention , DADDY, DAD, DADA, how does he respond "WHAT!" it makes me so mad i could scream! All she wants is her daddy. Sometimes I just let our son cry to see what he will do, and he does nothing but gets lost in the "crack machine".

So my answer to your question. You know when to much is to much when your family is suffering. When your children are crying for attention, when your wife puts on something really stimulation and you tell her to move out of the way of the TV. You would think that this would pull them out of the funk of Xbox playing. Now I am not saying he should not play. But only in moderation. You family needs you guys. You are so important to us and we love you so much. So much so that we ache for your attention. And maybe if you gave it to us, we would not have so many problems with the "crack machine".

I have tried the compromise, i have tried the playing of the games and even finding something to distract myself with and none of it works! I have tried talking to my fiancée, i have asked him, is there anyway we can make this work. He is always crabby especially when i try to talk to him when he is on the home menu of this stupid COD! I bought the Xbox for my fiancée a while back ago and it was so that he would be able to let out some stress due to him loosing his job. It was fine at first i guess cause the games weren't challenging enough for him, then COD Black ops came out, and i kept hearing all these great things about it and i figure hell why not, give him something that will really keep him entertained. Its been almost 7 months and all he does is play that game! I cant talk to him. I eat dinner alone, I watch what i though were our shows alone, I sleep alone Everything i do is alone. His way of spending time with our three yr old is putting her on his lap while he plays which infuriates me cause hes always cursing and belittling people over the Mic. I don't know who this man is anymore... He doesn't even tell me he loves me. I find myself getting jealous of the girls he plays with on the game cause they get more attention than i do. I didn't mind when it was for an hour or two a day i didn't care but now its become from three in the afternoon till six in the morning(I swear i'm not exaggerating for effect) and I just cant take it anymore. I am on the verge of leaving him and i don't want it to end this way.. i never thought that things would come to his, I don't want to have to explain to our daughter the reason mommy left daddy is cause of video games! How ridiculous does that sound! I don't know what to do, Ive lost any hope there was of fixing what has been done and i cant help but blame myself because i bought that damn console! I don't know what to do... I don't want to loose my fiancée to a video game, but it seems i already have.

Lost and alone in NC

I honestly don't mind, most of the time, that my husband enjoys playing the xbox.. But at times I feel so neglected. I have been married for almost 10 years, and we have 3 amazing kids. We have grown apart though. He works nights and so, I'm use to having the bed to myself. But on his weekends it would be nice to have him laying beside me. He loves playing his game, but its becoming too much for me to handle. I used to make a fuss when he wanted to play AGAIN, but I don't anymore. There is no point. We don't talk, cuddle on the couch during a movie, we don't make love, we just don't do anything at all together. It hurts me because I feel as though he doesn't love me like he used to, and that he doesn't want me.. in the way a woman needs to be wanted. I know that he does love me, but I'm not sure if he is in love with me anymore. I mean how am I to know, when there isn't any communication. I homeschool my kids, so all day I'm on duty, not only as a mom, but as a teacher. Then when the teacher part stops for the night. I am still mommy for the rest of the night. The only time my husband actually gets to spend with us is when he wakes up right before he goes to work. Then the weekends, but they are spent with him on the xbox. I love him, and I miss him. We don't have a babysitter, so we couldn't go out.. but there are plenty of dates we can have right here.. Even if its after they go to bed. I just want to be loved, and appreciated. I want to know he wants me. I want my loving, flirting husband back. I want to know that he wants me and my company as much as I want and need his. I would love some help. I would love some advice. I don't want this to keep going, i'm afraid I won't be able to save our relationship. Please, I'm begging for help. Thanks

Do what i did after years of argueing with him feeling like the xbox was the other women, I got a boyfriend and life is now great and he is too busy to notice!!

It all started off innocently enough. I bought the 360 back when my husband and I were dating, because I was starting nursing school and knew I'd be studying constantly. I wanted him to have something to occupy himself with. Biggest mistake I ever made. Years later we're married, have 3 kids, I'm a full time RN, full time mom, full time maid, and my husband has a "boosting schedule" so that he can get achievements on the xbox. I'm miserable. My husband ignores me, the kids, the dogs, the outside world... can't even tell you the last time we had sex. We barely sleep together. Partly because I work split shifts, but mainly because he falls asleep in the living room playing xbox. It's to the point that he came downstairs one morning into our room, and our daughter says "no daddy, this is mommy s room, you go back upstairs." Pathetic. I've tried playing with him, but god forbid one of his buddies gets online. Then we are done playing and he has to go play with them. I'm sick and tired of working my ass off while he's the eternal teenager. He has even blown off this entire semester of school because he didn't do his class work due to gaming. I want to scream. I want to yell. I want to beat the hell out of him. My girlfriend offered to "break-in" and steal it, toss some stuff around to make it look legit but told her it would only scare the kids and he'd use my money to go buy a new one.
I don't know what to do. I know addiction when I see it but when it comes to this i just don't know what to do. For some reason people don't take this seriously enough. Most sites I've looked at the response is to "dress sexy and distract him" or "play with him" or "find your own hobby" . This isn't a joke, or women just finding another thing to hitch at their husbands about.

I just printed this article and posted it on our refrigerator door (he will see it for sure when he go get himself another beer). I agree that guys need an outlet, to somehow release that stress. I used to be a gamer too but hadn't played in a while because we now have a 2 year old son. I would play with him if I have time but like every Mom who have a 2 year old I don't have time to play video games anymore. The thing is he is at work all day until 4:30 and then he starts playing video games right after changing clothes. The problem I have with this is that it takes away family time or our time for each other, or time to help me out a little bit. Play with our son so I can make a yummy dinner for him. Im not saying dont play video games anymore. All Im saying is play it with a little consideration for your family (wife/gf and kids). Just like how I understand and consider the fact that he needs his down time. Because believe it or not I need him too.

Wow so Im not the only one dealing with this. Been with my husband for 12 years and have five kids. This xbox of his has taken over our marriage night and day! it is ruining our marriage. I cant sleep good at night because I hear him constantly yelling. Im the one that works while he stays home all day playing xbox. He ignores me and the kids. Im ready to call it quits. Its sicking what these damn games are doing to these men. I mean I wouldnt be complaining if he played for a couple of hours but he goes on for hours. We get into arguments because he wont keep quite at night. Its so annoying. I can hear him playing right now. Its frying his brain ruining his eyesight and hearing. I tell him that he's gonna pay for it when he's older.

OMG I know all these feelings, or the ones about The Lost Boys on these game console things. Mine works on computers and had found online gaming and for the past year and a half, its been nothing but work and game, with no friends or family and no outside together, eating out, taking walks all gone. Now he seems to be coming around, so that is him but these guys stuck to xbox i dont know what to say other than get a job in electronics stuff and then you will learn all about all what is hot and games too all the best, to gamers. I used to love using the commodore 64 computer not nintendo, to play games it took 10 mins! all that was cool. Now its too easy to game game game.' I send hope to nikki that it is better for her now wherever she is!
Cate ---
I had a Man ,
He became an Icon (Game Icon)

Another thing... I dont prefer games over sex EVER!!! Thats just sad!

Well... Im sorry for the feelings you ladies go through when you find your significant others at home gameing. I like this article because it speaks on both parties behalf. But what I find funny is that theirs only comments from one party... The wives. Listen, I speak only for myself, cause I know every situation is different. I feel their are specific factors in a guys life that plays out that eventually draw the guy to the 360 or PS3. All these things vary, but you can see what it is if you look close. For example, me... When I was younger, I spent hardly no time on video games. I was always outside, playing handball (cause I lived in Bronx New York), hanging out with friends, Meeting new people through my friends. And what happened? I got more into trouble. Smoking weed. Gettin caught by the cops doing stupid things like gettin on the train without paying. Being a womanizer as well amongst other things. Basically, I had other things do that were funner. Now, I moved out to Pennsylvania, wich is not the biggest thing, but that I also got married in PA. In a place that theirs nothing to do. A place where someone has to drive and spend gas money to get their. It sucks. So as far as activities go... Im SOL. The 360 gives me something to do. I tell my wife, I can do what she asks me to do. But when Im done, Im not going to sit at the living room sofa twirling my thumbs till she gets home. Im going to do what I want to do. You can say Im a competitive guy, as are alot of guys... Wether it be with basketball, football, videogames, cars, women even with jobs and money. At least Im not a junkie... Im not a bumb... Im not in a club 24/7... I dont tell my wife what to do with her money... I dont spend all my money on the 360, cars, clothes, other women or myself for that matter... When I worked, she got all the money she needed/wanted... When I worked, I played less cause I was tired and cause I wanted to see my wife and their was extra income to actually go out and spend money with out worrying about gas for tomorrow. Ladies, you say that guys get mad... Fine, maybe you got a point... But like I say, things can be worse. You know where you guys is, he's not drugging himself up, you deffinately know he 's not cheating on you cause you know he's home on the 360. And he's not getting into trouble out in the streets or a bar... Im done... Have a nice day...

im tyred too xbox 360 its the only thing i can really say i hate...i been married 3 years i work my hubby does not...this is because i am a teacher and i love my job and i do not have no one to get my kids at school and we only have one car...but at home he does not do house things i com home having to cook and deal with three little ones...he is sitting in fron of that tv like for 5 or more hrs every day.forgets to feed the kids in the afternoon,He says if u need me call me but who wants to hear a wait untill im done...he gets mad when i talk about it.i am so tyred i feel lonely.i get home from work stay downstairs and he dont come down to say hello at all.lately i feel like staying at work late so i dont have to hear him shooting...I love him but im tyred...he just desided to go to the army hopefully they teach him responzability and to prioritize things.... :(

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one more thing! I dont mind the down time, the so called space, I need that too. But this is ridiculous! Sorry but its time for real men to Man up! Sorry Guys!

Personaly I think the whole concept of a grow married man playing games that take away their abiltiy to focus in the real world and deal with being there for his wife, is just too stupid and immature. They kill and shoot people and curse and throw temper fits, and it puts them in a fowl mood the rest of the day!
Its all about him, Every weekday every weekend, every birthday, Holiday! When is it ever about me! Sick of the Gaming world PERIOD! Where are the REAL Men?

"There is nothing rational or gratifying about waking up one day and not having a home, family or tangible friends because of an electronic square. Just because a game is fun, doesn’t mean you get to give up the responsibility of having a REAL LIFE. 8 letters that most people in our current society don’t understand. What’s retarded is men’s current brain development. There is a difference between having a release for a couple hours a day and not getting up to use the restroom, not getting up to bathe or eat, and letting your real world relationships come to an end. Video games are more interactive and “life-like,” but they are not to replace life. You want war games? You want to obliterate the asshole on the other team? Go to war and really kill somebody, quit being spineless. I’m a 19-year-old woman with a boyfriend who has admitted to being a “video game addict,” and he just bought an Xbox Live last week. I love playing games, but last winter I was alone for months, and spent my nights Googling “Call of Duty ruining my relationship” for Yahoo answers on how to fix it, because being attractive at 5’1?, long blonde hair, D cup bra and an impeccable sex drive apparently isn’t good enough for my partner of 3 years. There is nothing normal about what video games are doing to people, and there’s no argument."

I posted this on another forum, and I think it fits here, too. I'm trying to prepare myself for the inevitable of what this Xbox will do, because Call of Duty on the computer already almost ruined us...

My husband plays call of duty and has befriended some men he shared his cell # with. One of them is gay, and has texted sexual innuendos to my husband. My husband says it's "just the way this guy jokes with everyone" but it makes me very uncomfortable, even though the guy lives in another state.

I feel like these strangers are in my home. My husband plays xbox more than anything else other than sleeping or working. I never said a word until he gave those men his phone number. Now I'm thinking of leaving him.

My husband is almost 42-years-old. He might as well be 14. Listening to him curse, demean others, yell, scream snotty, sarcastic remarks while playing Halo does not make me want to be around him. Then he uses that attitude and tone with me. He works from the house and plays on his lunch time...sometimes for FAR longer than any lunch hour than I have ever heard of being allowed at any company. He won't answer the phone while he's playing so when I had a car emergency and tried to call home, he never answered the phone. Disgusting...and he wonders why our sex life suffers?! Sorry, I'm an over-40-year-old woman and I would prefer to have back the mature, responsible husband that I knew a few years ago.

i'm so sick of the *uckin* xbox. I feel like i'm living with a grownup son, rather than a partner. He says he's just enjoying his xmas. Me and our baby are not even considered. Selfish *astar*.

Hi, I have been married 11 years and I am ready to give it up. My husband plays the PS3 sun up to sun down. When I ask him about spending time with me it creates an argument. He has cheated on me with three differnt women and all. I am trying to live by the vows but it is getting hard and I am feeling like God has abandon me. Whatever I say about the game he goes into a rage. He gets up go to work, come home, take a bath and then plays the game. This is 365 days a year. I get no birthdays, anniversaries, holidsays not anything. And again if I say something it creates an argument. To top it off He don't want me to leave the house , have no company, havie no fun with the kids.

Please tell me, I really dont care anymore. And ladies please don't end up like me a OLD MOTHER HUBBARD.

No Life

You know, I wouldn't mind so much if my husband actually made time for ME and things to do WITH ME. We are in therapy to improve our communication but when I "communicate" about him playing too much, he says I'm trying to control him. If I say it's ok, but get pissed after 4 consecutive hours when I've worked my ass off, then I'm not "communicating" to him what I really want. I HATE VIDEO GAMES AND I WISH THAT I HAD NEVER ALLOWED THE XBOX IN MY HOUSE!!! I used to have a romantic husband that liked to spend time with me but for the past 8 months it's like having an extra moody teenager in the house. Thanks a lot Microsoft. The wives of the world really appreciate your "escape".

I am so tired of arguing with my husband about how much he should be able to play. Literally I am exhausted of fighting him over it, it's so rediculous. I told him he should be able to play 2-3 days a week (2-4 hours a time) and he thinks I am being way too harsh. I am seriously fed up. I hate it, it is ruining my marriage and how I feel about him.

My husband and I are 20 years old,he works and plays xbox, I get pissed off when I want to buy something for myself or our baby he makes a big deal like "I don't wanna drive and "you can only waste this much..." but when a new game comes out BAM! there he goes without consulting me wasting like there's no tomorrow on games and stuff for xbox...once his xbox broke and bought a new one the same day...tht was like 300 bucks...idk...and he won't help me with our baby or laundry or anything or take me out (always makes excuses and gets on xbox live..) I love him but I dnt knw wat to do..he gets mad everytime I bring it up.

My husband plays Halo all the time. Although he has gotten better, he still spends a good 20-35 hours a week attached to the x-box. It was once to a point that I wanted to leave him, I mean who wants to spend their life with an immature child? We have kids and they seldom got attention because all he wanted to do was shoot the enemy. Now on most days, he spends a few hours with us before he connects himself to the TV. Although right now he is passed out because he played Halo 3 until he had to go to work this morning.

my husband he play to much XBOX........!!! I HATE THAT FUCKING GAME ....!! HE DONT SPEND TIME WITH ME AND OUR BABY :-( !! PLEASE I NEED HELP !!

Great article. I still want to know how much is too much video game time? Is it 4 hours every day -and I mean every day. My husband works from 7pm to 1am and when he comes home he winds down with a video game or 2 for about 4 hours. We have kids that go to school, I work 9-5. We need him during the day but his night schedule because of the vieo games till 3am or 4am becomes an all night schedule. On his nights off we never go to bed together because he's playing video games till4am. Am I wrong to complain?

Hey there! I just read your article on how to deal with my husbands video gameing. I want to thank you for this infomation. I have been really mean to my husband in the past about his gameing, not realizing that he is just releasing his stress from the day. Dont get me wrong my husband is wonderful and he does yell out at me "I LOVE YOU BABY!!!" from the other room occasionally when he is playing. I just always thought guys had this invisable button that was hard wired in them to not let anything bother them. When in acuality guys have things that bother them they just vent it differently! Thanks again for giving me a different point of view! I think I will be less pissy about his gameing now because I finally realized that he isnt trying to avoid me he is just trying to relax after his hard day! Thanks again!

Debra
College Station

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